Friends – Finale & Feathers – Part 1 – FRIENDS

I love my FRIENDS!!


I have just had the most amazing weekend with my exercise friends, these girls are awesome!!

The dictionary defines the word friend as

1 – somebody emotionally close

2- acquaintance

3- ally

4- advocate of cause

5- patron


Before I joined the 12wbt and met my amazing exercise friends if someone asked me to define the meaning of the word friend I probably would have said


Someone you know, like, care for and get along with

Someone you share a common bond with

Someone you enjoy spending time with

Someone you enjoy being with


While these descriptions cover the basic meanings they don’t even come close to describing how I feel about my exercise friends.


Being overweight for most of my life has really held me back, I have always found it hard to share my weight struggles with friends, I have always been uncomfortable asking my “normal” friends for help when it comes to weight loss and exercise. I have never had friends I could exercise with without feeling embarrassed, or ashamed. I have never felt comfortable discussing the issues associated with being fat with any of my friends.


I have always been a very caring, giving and generous person, so its in my nature to want to help people. I have learnt over time that a lot of so-called friends are happy enough to take my generosity and help, but it always seems one sided. I am the first one to offer help when needed, but the times in my life I have needed help, there has been no offers… until now


Since joining the 12wbt and meeting these amazing ladies my whole outlook on the meaning of friendship has changed.



I find it hard to believe that I have only known these ladies for such a short time, in some cases 10months in other cases  6 months, and even just a few weeks, it feels like we have been friends for life.


We have all met through the facebook group for the 12wbt, and the one thing we had in common at the beginning was wanting to lose weight, over the past few weeks and months we have discovered that we have so much more in common that that.

We have discovered that we all have our own demons and struggles, we have all had that sense of not feeling good enough , guilt about our bodies, guilt about our families, guilt about feeling guilty.


I feel so complete, it is so refreshing to have these special ladies in my life, to be able share this part of me with others who have been or are facing the same struggles that I have, is so liberating .

To have friends who know exactly how you are feeling, and who want to share and celebrate your victories, and understand your feelings and frustrations when things aren’t going to plan.. like when “life” takes over, is amazing.


So I have been thinking over the past few days about my exercise friends, and how much I love them and what they do for me, and this is what I would now use to describe a friend


Someone who makes you happy

Someone who makes you laugh

Someone who makes you cry

Someone who “gets” you

Someone who is  happy when you are  happy

Someone who is  sad when you are sad

Someone who wants to be around you

Someone who wants to spend time with you

Someone who wants to help you

Someone who knows how you feel

Someone who knows when you need a push

Someone who knows when you need a hug

Someone who understands your struggles

Someone who rejoices in your triumphs

Someone who is happy for you regardless of their own situation

Someone who will encourage you to try or push harder

Someone who inspires you with their kindness

Someone who inspires you with their achievements

Someone who inspires you with their triumphs

Someone who accepts you just as you are


I have used the term exercise friends, as these I have met these wonderful ladies through the program and our friendship started when we would get together for exercise sessions.

We have evolved so much over countless coffee’s, tears, hugs, tears, shopping trips, tears, dinners, and weekends away, tears …… These ladies are not just my exercise friends… They are my TRUE FRIENDS….  and I love them all to bits






OMG I can run 1km… who is this person

Ok so there are so many other things i really wanted to blog about before this  but I am just so damned excited and proud I had to get it out

This morning I did my fitness test for the end of Round 2 and the beginning of Round 3 for the MB 12wbt

Long story short being the totally anal control freak that I am I organised a group event,you know just a small gathering of fellow 12wbters… for a 7km walk the fitness test and coffee afterwards.

The morning was a HUGE success, we had around 30 people turn up for the walk at 6am a few of the regulars and lots of newbies.

After the walk we got stuck into the fitness test, Now I have always dreaded the 1km run part of the test, and even now im into my 4th round I have NEVER EVER run the full 1km, always get about 1/2 way give up then walk the rest,

When I first joined the 12wbt in August 2012 my 1km time was 12.30sec..

In round 1 ( feb 2012 ) my 1km time was – 10.25

I have always believed I could not run… I never really liked running, its hard and your legs hurt, you cant breath, blah blah blah

Well guess what…..




Today i did my 1km in 6.29secs… WOO HOO!..

So what has changed… well firstly,after comitting fully to round 2 I am fitter that i have ever been,

BUT the most significant change for me has been my beautiful friend Kyleanne, she refused to allow me to continue with my ” I cant run” ranting, and has been helping me over the past 6 weeks, I have learnt more from Kyleanne  over the past few months than I have from 3 rounds of the program, She believes in me, and she has encouraged me to keep pushing, I cant express how grateful and lucky I am to have such a lovely person come into my life.

If it was not for her I would have been content to continue plodding along, dont get me wrong I love exercising but I never had a desire to want to run.. we are now planning on doing the Canberra 1/2 marathon next year GULP..

I thought i was happy with my life and the way things were  before starting my “journey”  I was happy with my small group of friends and the limited social events we would attend.

But I have met so many wonderful people doing this program and am so grateful for each and everyone of them.

My life has turned completely around, my weekends are now booked with fitness and fun of course yummy food afterwoods

Its one thing to be determined and passionate  but to share that passion with friends is priceless!!

Oh and while im here the rest of my fitness test results are

WALL SIT – 1:50

SIT & REACH + 9 ( redid this at home  – the ground at the park was a bit dodgy )

PUSH UPS – ON TOES – 15  ON KNEES 31 = 46 total

AB STRENGTH – level 3 ( sigh still…. but doing the mean abs challenge so hopefully lvl 5 in 4 weeks )

cant believe im saying this but BRING ON TOMORROWS 4km FUN RUN…..