Friends – Finale & Feathers – Part 1 – FRIENDS

I love my FRIENDS!!


I have just had the most amazing weekend with my exercise friends, these girls are awesome!!

The dictionary defines the word friend as

1 – somebody emotionally close

2- acquaintance

3- ally

4- advocate of cause

5- patron


Before I joined the 12wbt and met my amazing exercise friends if someone asked me to define the meaning of the word friend I probably would have said


Someone you know, like, care for and get along with

Someone you share a common bond with

Someone you enjoy spending time with

Someone you enjoy being with


While these descriptions cover the basic meanings they don’t even come close to describing how I feel about my exercise friends.


Being overweight for most of my life has really held me back, I have always found it hard to share my weight struggles with friends, I have always been uncomfortable asking my “normal” friends for help when it comes to weight loss and exercise. I have never had friends I could exercise with without feeling embarrassed, or ashamed. I have never felt comfortable discussing the issues associated with being fat with any of my friends.


I have always been a very caring, giving and generous person, so its in my nature to want to help people. I have learnt over time that a lot of so-called friends are happy enough to take my generosity and help, but it always seems one sided. I am the first one to offer help when needed, but the times in my life I have needed help, there has been no offers… until now


Since joining the 12wbt and meeting these amazing ladies my whole outlook on the meaning of friendship has changed.



I find it hard to believe that I have only known these ladies for such a short time, in some cases 10months in other cases  6 months, and even just a few weeks, it feels like we have been friends for life.


We have all met through the facebook group for the 12wbt, and the one thing we had in common at the beginning was wanting to lose weight, over the past few weeks and months we have discovered that we have so much more in common that that.

We have discovered that we all have our own demons and struggles, we have all had that sense of not feeling good enough , guilt about our bodies, guilt about our families, guilt about feeling guilty.


I feel so complete, it is so refreshing to have these special ladies in my life, to be able share this part of me with others who have been or are facing the same struggles that I have, is so liberating .

To have friends who know exactly how you are feeling, and who want to share and celebrate your victories, and understand your feelings and frustrations when things aren’t going to plan.. like when “life” takes over, is amazing.


So I have been thinking over the past few days about my exercise friends, and how much I love them and what they do for me, and this is what I would now use to describe a friend


Someone who makes you happy

Someone who makes you laugh

Someone who makes you cry

Someone who “gets” you

Someone who is  happy when you are  happy

Someone who is  sad when you are sad

Someone who wants to be around you

Someone who wants to spend time with you

Someone who wants to help you

Someone who knows how you feel

Someone who knows when you need a push

Someone who knows when you need a hug

Someone who understands your struggles

Someone who rejoices in your triumphs

Someone who is happy for you regardless of their own situation

Someone who will encourage you to try or push harder

Someone who inspires you with their kindness

Someone who inspires you with their achievements

Someone who inspires you with their triumphs

Someone who accepts you just as you are


I have used the term exercise friends, as these I have met these wonderful ladies through the program and our friendship started when we would get together for exercise sessions.

We have evolved so much over countless coffee’s, tears, hugs, tears, shopping trips, tears, dinners, and weekends away, tears …… These ladies are not just my exercise friends… They are my TRUE FRIENDS….  and I love them all to bits






4 thoughts on “Friends – Finale & Feathers – Part 1 – FRIENDS

  1. I am nodding as I am reading your new description of a friend. I feel truely blessed to be a part of this group. And in a strange way, I think the tears and the struggles bring us closer together than the good times (although they are the best as well :).

    And why did we not get a photo together this weekend!! Very badly planned 😦 😉

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